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 I have been struggling to dismantle a "punk" persona for a couple of years, and in the last few days, really trying to tackle the few remaining pieces of it. Last night, I cut off the pink hair and took out my last two piercings, and had a conversation with a part of me after.

Me: I don't want to be boring.

Someone: Do you think dyed hair and piercings are needed to make people interesting? None of the friends you have now dress like punks.

Me: No. They have other things though.

Someone: Like what?

Me: Well, Stef has great ideas. I think I have great ideas too, but no one notices. They notice that I have pink hair.

I felt a wave of sadness, and I cried hard for a while.

You're worth a lot.
Try to keep that in mind.

Both Me and Someone seem to be inner critics. Now that you have written that, I suggest you challenge Me.

Here's something to start out with:

What's your definition of "boring"? For what purpose do you want to be noticed?
Whom do you want to appeal to? Why do you think is that they don't notice you?

Also some Cartesian Logics to help you clarify what the problem was:

What would happen if you became "boring"? What wouldn't happen?
What happens when you're not "boring"? What doesn't happen when you're not "boring"?

I think that's great progress. Good job.

Spratzaman:

Both Me and Someone seem to be inner critics. Now that you have written that, I suggest you challenge Me.

Here's something to start out with:

What's your definition of "boring"? For what purpose do you want to be noticed?
Whom do you want to appeal to? Why do you think is that they don't notice you?

Also some Cartesian Logics to help you clarify what the problem was:

What would happen if you became "boring"? What wouldn't happen?
What happens when you're not "boring"? What doesn't happen when you're not "boring"?

Restated...why is it important to you to be noticed?  What is good about it?
What is it that boring people have or do not have?
What did people do when they saw your hair and piercings?  And how did you feel about this?
And (assuming the responses were good) what else can you do to continue getting these responses?
Also what does it mean to appeal to the responses of others...what does this say about you and your relationship to them...and how do you feel about that?

 Thanks for the excellent questions john - I'll mull over them tonight..